Sex in general is talked about quite a lot in the media. You could say that it is the media’s obsession. There are articles and talk show discussions on how to have sex, who to have sex with, when to have sex, what to do if your partner doesn’t want to have sex, and even where to have sex. Within the media there is sex, sex, sex and more sex.

 

Sex is basically a physical act where someone stimulates sensitive areas of another person’s body with their own sensitive areas. It is what we think and feel about sex that makes it more than just the rubbing together of private parts. Sex is physical but it is also emotional and spiritual. Whether you think homosexuality is right or wrong will depend on what you think sex is. The same could be said of whether you think it is right or wrong to have sex outside of marriage. One view of sex is that it is an expression of love between a man and a woman. This act of love is the means through which new life is created. Sex could also be viewed in a spiritual sense as the connection between two people and God in an act of worship and expression of their intimate relationship with themselves and God.

 

In Genesis in the Old Testament Section of the Bible we read that God created two genders. Although two genders where created they were made to complement each other and form intimate co-dependant relationships. We also read in Genesis that God created men and women in his own image. Not men in his own image, not women in his own image, but men and women in his own image. Both genders reflect the character of God. Men reflect some aspects of God and women reflect others. In sex these two representations of God come together as one. This is what happens when Christians get married. Marriage is the term used for what happens when a man and a woman form a loving and physically intimate relationship. You cannot be married without having sex and you cannot have sex without then being married. Marriage is sex. When a man and a woman have sex they then become married.

 

God created all people to live in relationship to one another. There are many benefits to being in relationships whether they be sexual relationships or friendships between people of different genders or the same gender. Relationships give, joy, a source of support, companionship and encouragement. The Christian view of God is that God is one being with three parts, Father, Son/Jesus, and the Holy Spirit all existing in relationship with one another. This is known as the trinity. God is a relational God. This is why when he created humans in his own image he created them to be in relationships with one another and with God. When a man and a woman who believe in God have sex they are becoming one together with God. Three beings man, woman and God together as one just like the trinity.

 

As I said at the beginning of this article sex and relationships in general are talked a lot about in the media. However it is our relationship with God that is the most important one for us to focus on. Whether we are single, dating, going out, or married we need to get our relationship with God right before anything else. This side of heaven it will never be perfect just like our human relationships aren’t but if we work at it and spend time with God in prayer and worship then our relationship with him can grow and develop. If we have a good relationship with God then we will find it easier to relate to other people. God can give us the ability to love others and forgive them when they have hurt us. As we live in relationship to a loving God then his love can flow through us to other people. We can show this love to others in what we say, what we do and more importantly in what we do not say. Of course we can also show the love of God to the man or woman we are married to through sex which is coincidentally also known as making love.